Safety first! Finn recommends spot-testing your massage oil (on the inside of your forearm, for instance) before going ahead and using it everywhere.

Once you know that your body responds well to the oil, you can get going. If you’re enjoying some solo time, Finn recommends touching parts of your body near erogenous zones, like your thighs, and giving yourself a sensual massage. You can also incorporate massage oil into partnered play.

“You can try using a blindfold on your partner and using massage on different parts of their body,” says Finn. “This can be a good way to combine adrenaline with relaxation—the excitement of not knowing where hands are going to go next, combined with that intimate soft touch that massage can provide.” She also suggests using massage oil during aftercare to enhance intimacy.

You can also use these products in a less sexual context. If you or your partner feels stressed, a massage can help, says Rachel Beider, a licensed massage therapist and CEO of PRESS Modern Massage. “Massage relaxes the body by bringing awareness, circulation, and pain relief to specific areas,” Beider says. “You might be holding tension in places without even knowing it—massage helps focus awareness on those body parts.”