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Of all the sex positions in your romp repertoire, doggy style can get an (undeservedly) bad rep among vagina owners. Sure, it’s not the most intimate of positions—you’re facing away from your partner, after all—and it’s not exactly relaxing. Your arms may get tired, and your knees can take a real beating. But when done correctly (and with the help of some sex toys), doggy style can be capital O orgasmic.
“You can get the deepest penetration possible in this position, and you can also reach the G-spot,” says Ava Cadell, PhD, clinical sexologist, AASECT-certified sex counselor, and author of Neuroloveology. Plus, for some folks, being on all fours and entered from behind—the most basic definition of doggy, which obviously comes from the way dogs themselves mate—can be mentally stimulating, too.
On one hand, the lack of pressure of staring into your partner’s eyes can actually make it easier to orgasm, says Nan Wise, PhD, a licensed psychotherapist and certified sex therapist, and author of Why Good Sex Matters. On the other, the receiving partner might enjoy feeling dominated by the penetrating partner, which can provide a gentle foray into kinky or BDSM sex.
Meet the Experts:
Ava Cadell, PhD, is a clinical sexologist, an AASECT-certified sex counselor, and the author of Neuroloveology: The Power To Mindful Love & Sex.
Nan Wise, PhD, is a licensed psychotherapist, cognitive neuroscientist, certified sex therapist, and the author of Why Good Sex Matters.
Goody Howard is a Texas-based sexologist and sex educator who teaches sexual skill workshops and offers sex-positive professional development opportunities.
Sadie Allison, DHS, is a member of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors (AASECT) and the author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris.
If you’re still not sold on doggy style, consider this: There are specific actions you can take to make it hotter than any other sex position out there. But before you can level up making puppy love, let’s start with the basics…
What does traditional doggy style look like?
Classic doggy style involves one partner getting on all fours, while the other partner is on their knees, entering the first person from behind with their penis or strap-on, says Wise.
Other sexy variations include bending over the bed while your partner enters you from behind (more on that below), as well as several changes to leg and arm positions to switch things up. Since you are indeed not a dog, you have lots of power over how this position goes down—so get ready to have some fun, with these tips:
1. Start with foreplay.
If you’ve tried doggy style sex in the past and found it either uncomfortable or painful—something you don’t typically find with other types of positions—it’s likely because your body hasn’t prepared itself for it. Because doggy is a deep and thus intense position, especially if your partner is well-endowed, you may need more time to get excited, says Cadell. Basically, you need to do one F word—foreplay—before you can comfortably do the other (f*ck), so make sure you both build time into your sex sched.
To prime yourself (read: self-lubricate), spend at least 10 to 20 minutes making out, touching various erogenous zones, and doing whatever else turns you on. Perhaps that means teasing each other with some dirty talk or wearing your favorite sexy lingerie.
2. Get vertical.
The OG doggy-style setup (on all fours) can feel great for a while, but eventually, your knees start to feel it. “A lot of women complain that they get sore knees, or that it hurts their back or their neck,” Cadell says. Fix that—and still reap all the sex-from-behind benefits—by getting on your feet. Stand up and lean forward slightly against a wall, or bend over onto a table or a desk.
3. Or lie (all the way) down.
Sick of being on your hands and knees? Try lying flat on your stomach, with or without a pillow under your pelvis (but definitely one under your face, for comfort). Like so:
The snug fit will make your partner feel even bigger inside you…and you get to relax in the sexiest way possible.
4. Leave the bedroom.
The best part about doggy style? It doesn’t even require a bed. Try it in the shower, standing on a staircase while holding onto the banister, or leaning over the kitchen counter. You could even take this sex position for a spin in the car, if your backseat is big enough.
5. Lather up with lube.
Lube does to sex what honey mustard does to turkey sandwiches, makes ’em way wetter and better.
That’s essential because “few bodies create enough natural lubrication to keep penetration pleasurable for the duration of intercourse,” says Goody Howard, a Texas-based sexologist and sex educator who teaches sexual skill workshops and offers sex-positive professional development opportunities. Applying some store-bought lube to you and your partner’s genitals can help increase pleasure—even during a marathon sex session. Friction, chafing, and pain begone!
6. Throw in a pillow.
Traditional doggy doesn’t guarantee an orgasm, sadly enough. To up your chances of the big O, get into the classic doggy style position with you on all fours, then put a wedge pillow (or a few firm pillows) under your belly in order to increase external pressure on the abdomen and pelvis—this ups the ante on the sensations you get during sex.
Lastly, keeping your hips raised, rest your head and arms on the bed. “[It’s] almost like a child’s pose,” Wise adds. (Think of it kinda like Leap Frog position, but with the added OMG of pillow pressure.)
7. Go all in with sex furniture.
Arms or legs get tuckered out in doggy? Woof. Though you might be tempted to push through the fatigue in order to reach climax, unfortunately, “it’s going to be tough to experience pleasure if your muscles are in pain and tired,” says Howard. Doing your best to ignore a muscle cramp, for example, will still pull some of your focus away from all the other awesomeness happening to your bod.
Well, that’s where the right piece of sex furniture comes in. To make doggy style even more enjoyable, try a sex chaise, like the Liberator Esse Chaise. It’s made of sturdy, supportive foam that holds your body up for you. Less time thinking about how your arms are burning, more time moaning? Here for it.
8. Pay attention to your position.
Arch your back (not to the point of pain, please), as if you’re moving into the cow pose of cat-cow in yoga. This slight tweak will improve the angle of penetration, helping your partner better hit your G-spot.
9. Bring in nipple play.
If you like breast stimulation, doggy is the perfect position, says Cadell. Grab your partner’s hands and place them on your breasts. Then, by keeping your hands over theirs, you can show them exactly the way you want to be touched—think of it as a naughty show-and-tell.
10. Try nipple clamps.
Prefer constant pressure to your nips? Wish there was some way a partner could finagle nibbling your nipples from behind? Give nipple clamps a whirl, suggests Howard.
Plop a pair on (gently, of course) mid-play, then as you’re nearing orgasm, ease them off. The swoosh of your blood rushing back into your nipple could be just the thing to bring you home.
11. Find your closeup.
Position yourself in front of a mirror so you and your partner can sneak a peek at each other from another angle, says Sadie Allison, DHS, author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris. And don’t be surprised if it inspires you to put on a show. Toss your hair, arch your back a little more, and catch your partner’s eyes for a sultry look.
Doggy style makes pulling out super easy, but you may want to rethink that contraception method…
12. Try an unconventional prop.
Don’t worry, “nothing fancy” is required, says Wise. But grab a yoga strap before heading to the bedroom. “They are probably the easiest, most accessible, and most ubiquitous bedroom prop,” Wise says.
Just wrap the strap around your waist for that feels-so-good pelvic pressure you get with pillows, and then let your partner pull on it while they enter you from behind. (Don’t have one? Use a long silk tie or something similar.) They’ll get a bit more leverage for thrusting—and there’s nothing like adding a little pseudo bondage to the mix.
13. Give yourself a hand.
Use your fingers to stimulate your clitoris as your partner thrusts, for a doubly powerful, blended climax. This is, by far, one of the primo ways to increase your chances of orgasm during doggy, says Allison.
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14. Grab a vibrator.
This is sound advice for literally any sex position. But unlike, say, the missionary sex position where you have to pick an itty bitty vibe that’ll fit between your bodies, in doggy style, you can “take advantage of the position and use a bigger vibrator, like a wand vibe,” says Howard.
With wands, not only can you easily stimulate your clit, but because wand vibrators feature a rumbly type of vibration (as opposed to bullet vibrators, which are usually more buzzy), “the person doing the penetrating can feel that vibration on their penis or dildo while inside you,” she explains.
Howard especially recommends a wand vibrator with an angled head, like the Lelo Smart Wand or Lulu 8 Wand. “The L-shape allows folks with limited mobility and range of motion issues to reach their bits even more easily,” she says.
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15. Pull out the vibrating cock ring.
If your partner enjoys wearing a vibrating cock ring during sex—or is open to the idea of trying one, this can be a great way to amp up doggy style.
Generally speaking, cock rings lock blood in a penis, helping your partner stay harder, longer. A vibrating cock ring simply features a buzzy vibe on top of the ring, which you can position either up or down. (ICYWW: Yes, vibrating cock rings work on dildos, too!)
“Face the vibrating portion down so that it’ll stimulate your partner’s scrotum (if they have one) and your clit,” suggests Howard. “This will basically turn your partner into a vibrator because with every thrust you get teased.” Fun!
16. Be smart about surfaces.
Rugburn on your knees isn’t exactly enjoyable, and neither is slipping on satin sheets when you’re ~trying~ to be sexy. Consider adding a plush pillow under your knees if you’re doing doggy on the floor (this is a great go-to for quiet sex), position yourself close enough to a headboard or other surface to have something to grasp as your partner thrusts, or bunch up a couple of throw blankets under your hands and knees to create a little slip-proof friction.
17. Bring in butt play.
Doggy style is the easiest position to switch from vaginal sex to anal sex, says Cadell, since your butt is (obviously) right there. Just make sure to use a new condom to avoid infection, and if it’s your first time, be sure to use plenty of anal lube and go slow.
18. Wear a butt plug.
Speaking of anal play… You can also keep going for vaginal penetration and spice things up with a toy designed to go in and stay in the backdoor: the butt plug.
“A butt plug is going to press into the vaginal canal, which can make some of the internal hot-spots like the G-spot and A-spot more likely to get hit with every stroke,” says Howard.
While she recommends wearing a basic (read: non-vibrating, small) plug the first time you try it during intercourse, the second (or hundredth) time, you might upgrade to a remote-controlled vibrating butt plug, like the b-Vibe Rimming Plug. “Having your partner control the vibrations from a remote while you have sex really ramps up the intimacy,” she says.
19. Use anal beads.
Butt plugs go in and stay put, creating pleasurable pressure. But it actually isn’t the anal canal that’s dense with nerve-endings—it’s the anal opening. “After the initial push-in, butt plugs don’t actually stimulate those nerves unless they vibrate,” says Howard.
But anal beads keep the stimulation going because they are designed to be inserted and removed over and over, she says.
Plus, doggy style is the perfect position to incorporate this anal accessory because “it puts the receiver in an awesome position for the penetrator to insert and remove the string during sex,” she says. (With the help of lube, of course!)
20. Explore double penetration.
Quick recap: Butt plugs are beginner-level anal play, and anal beads are intermediate. Advanced is double-penetration with a penis and dildo, or two dildos.
If you’re ready to level up, a harness like the SpareParts Deuce Harness will allow your partner to penetrate your front and back hole at the exact (!) same (!) time (!).
“The sensation pressure and the fullness of double penetration can feel amazing,” says Howard. Plus, as with the butt plug, because the anal canal is full, “the vaginal hot-spots are more likely to be presented and stimulated so orgasm may be easier.”
But, before you or your partner goes all in (literally), be sure to use A LOT of lube and have a safeword. Howard recommends using the green, yellow, and red system to check in with each other on comfortability—when you need to slow down or pause, simply say “yellow.”
Ultimately, what takes any sex position from good to great to O-mazing is as simple as one word: enthusiasm. As long as you and your partner are excited about what you’re doing with doggy style, you’ll both end up howling with pleasure.
Marissa Gainsburg is the Features Director at Women’s Health, where she oversees the magazine’s news-meets-trends Warm Up section and Love & Life section. After receiving her journalism degree from the University of Florida, Marissa has spent the past eight years in NYC with her dog Bentley, writing and editing fitness, nutrition, health, sexual health, mental health, relationship, and travel content. She’s held previous positions at Self, Allure, and Cosmopolitan.
Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a sex and fitness journalist committed to helping people feel the best they can in their bodies. In addition to Men’s Health, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she co-hosts called Bad In Bed. Follow her on Instagram @Gabriellekassel.
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